Easy Tips for a Better Breastfeeding Experience

As a postpartum doula and lactation consultant, trust me when I say I understand that breastfeeding can feel SO overwhelming in the beginning. Your world just got rocked, and now there’s so much to learn!  Positioning, latching, milk supply, feeding cues— the list goes on! And it’s easy to lose confidence when you’re also running on no sleep. 

But with practice, support, and the right techniques, I promise you breastfeeding can become one of the most meaningful and rewarding parts of your postpartum journey.

I always remind new moms that feeding your baby should be a bonding experience, not a painful or stressful one. Whether you’re nursing for the first time or just navigating new challenges along the way, these easy, practical tips can help you feel more confident, comfortable, and connected.

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1. Get Comfortable Before You Begin

Before you even think about latching, set yourself up for success! Choose a comfy spot where you can relax. Your body’s comfort directly impacts how your baby feeds. Sit in a chair with good back support or a cozy spot in bed with extra pillows behind you.

A breastfeeding pillow (I’m a big fan of the My Brest Friend pillow) can be a game changer for supporting your baby’s weight and protecting your back and shoulders from strain. 

Once you’re settled, take a deep breath and let your shoulders drop. Your calm energy helps your baby relax, too.

It’s also always a good idea to understand your baby’s hunger cues so that the beginning of your feeding sessions stays peaceful instead of a desperate scramble to calm your hungry screaming baby! Learn more about how to understand your baby’s cues.

2. Focus on Baby’s Position

Proper positioning is key for both comfort and milk transfer. One of my favorite reminders for new parents is “tummy to mommy.” Your baby’s chest should be facing your chest. 

Line up your baby so that their nose is opposite your nipple. This encourages them to tip their head back slightly and open wide for a deeper latch. Make sure their whole body (not just their head) is supported. Dangling legs or a twisted position can make feeding uncomfortable for both of you.

Experiment with different holds, such as:

• Cradle hold – classic and cozy for full-term babies

• Football hold – great for C-section recovery or smaller babies

• Side-lying position – ideal for resting while nursing at night

Every mom-baby pair is unique! It’s okay to adjust and find what feels right for YOU.

3. Check Baby’s Mouth and Latch

A proper latch should feel like a strong, gentle tug. NOT a pinch or a bite. Instead of pushing your baby’s head toward your breast, support them gently at the neck and shoulders. Allow them to lead the way, tipping their head back slightly and opening wide before latching.

Bring your baby to your breast, not your breast to the baby. Their chin should touch your breast first, with more of the lower part of your areola in their mouth than the upper part. You should see rhythmic sucking and hear soft swallowing once they’re latched well.

If you feel pinching, break the latch gently with your finger and try again. It’s okay if you don’t get it on the first few tries.

4. Remember: Breastfeeding Should NOT Hurt

Mild tenderness at first is totally normal as your body adjusts, but ongoing pain is a sign that something is off. Issues like a shallow latch, engorgement, or tongue tie can cause discomfort. And you don’t have to figure it out alone.

A postpartum doula or lactation consultant can:

• Observe a feeding session and help correct latch or positioning

• Recommend soothing techniques for sore nipples

• Offer emotional support if frustration or anxiety creeps in

You deserve help and comfort. And pain is not a sign you’re failing! It might just be a cue that support could make things easier. And who doesn’t like easier?

5. Give Yourself Grace (and Time)

Every breastfeeding journey looks different. Some babies take to nursing immediately; others need patience and practice. Some moms exclusively breastfeed, while others supplement or switch to pumping. All of these paths are valid.

Please be gentle with yourself as you and your baby learn together. You should celebrate small wins! Even the messy, middle-of-the-night ones. The act of feeding your baby, no matter how it looks, is about more than nutrition. It’s about connection, closeness, and care.

And if things feel hard? Reach out. Whether to your postpartum doula, lactation consultant, or a local support group, you’re never meant to do this alone.

You’re Doing Better Than You Think

“You’re doing amazing, sweetie!” But seriously, breastfeeding is a skill! And one that takes time, practice, and grace to learn. Remember that as you and your baby are learning together. You’re trying your best and you love that little hungry miracle you created, and that’s all that matters.

If you’d like personalized guidance, feeding support, or simply a calm voice to talk things through, I’m here to help.

Connect with me here to schedule a postpartum support session.